I often read with amusement the ideas of the proponents of work-life balance (WLB).
My view is quite simple – if you want to build your career, chuck out WLB.
This might sound a bit harsh, but unless the company you are working for has an open view on flexi-time, just know the WLB is a myth. And by the way, just because you are on flexi-time is not going to work if your boss is in at 7.00 a.m. and you arrive at 10.00 a.m.
If you are looking to develop and grow by emulating your boss (the most effective way) then working at her pace is essential.
There are some pointers that need to be highlighted:
- Let’s not confuse WLB with regular exercise. Getting your body to build a sweat is an essential part of keeping functional. It is a great stress-reliever and rejuvenates your emotional energy.
- Leaving your spouse to tend to the baby every night when you both have high-powered jobs just isn’t fair. Play your part even if it’s just out of basic common decency.
- Get in a long weekend away with the family at least once a year. And a year-end break away with the wife and kids just does the trick. As expensive as it is, spend the money. It gets all the juices flowing again.
I think the most exhausting thing that I have ever seen is Steve Covey’s proposed weekly diary that he presents in Seven Habits of Highly Successful People. It was a great book and the ideas were definitely worth striving for. But a mere mortal like myself found the whole thing totally overwhelming. Having a diarized time for every activity including time with the kids just did it for me – much too hectic. I know that in the career build-up phase this is ridiculous and is doomed to fail!
If you are building your career, it takes total focus. Don’t ever kid yourself otherwise. When you finally ‘make it’ you can bring in the sexy stuff like WLB. And if your spouse disagrees, he is not on your side and is being unfairly unrealistic.
If you are going places you need to stick all your energy behind it, otherwise you reduce your chances of success. People in this space know it – people who are not talk of WLB.
Clive Kaplan is a top-rated Executive/Leadership coach.
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