In the corporate world, you have to earn respect. Just because you have a university degree does not mean that you can claim your rightful place on the organisational chart.
Developing relationships is one of the most important parts of the work experience. If this gets off on the wrong foot, all sorts of chaos can ensue.
Many of my graduate clients often find themselves in the space of trying to seek acceptance and approval from bosses, peers and even staff!
Needless to say this does not go a long way to command respect.
When I ask them whether they would prefer to be respected or liked, they invariably confirm that respect is the desired option.
However, because they want to be liked and approved, they end up saying yes to things they actually do not want to do. The result is a frustrated confusion coupled with a good measure of self-criticism.
How does such a preposterous situation develop?
Quite honestly the answer is not comforting. Usually it is a self-esteem issue – which has a profound connection to fear of rejection.
The good news is that we all suffer from these symptoms (to various degrees of severity).
The better news is that if you become aware of these reactions, you have the opportunity to respond in a different way and create a profoundly different result.
There are skills that you can develop that can make a significant difference.
Reclaiming your power!
And prepare yourself for a dramatic transformation!
How would it be if you could transform your ’yes’ behaviour and respond in a sure and confident way?
A good executive coach should be able to help you make significant changes in just a few sessions. You can learn to no longer be a victim.
The result is you start to make some real progress.
Just know this: If you are in a ‘yes’ mode, your boss will not promote you – you will be judged as being ‘too weak’!
So if you are stuck and are not making the progress you desire, I’m almost sure that, in one way or another, you are saying ‘yes’ when you should be saying ‘no’!
Don’t delay – get coached!
Clive Kaplan, leading executive coach, is a CA(SA) with over 25 years’ experience as an executive director in both listed and unlisted companies.
Clive brings some interesting perspectives to the field of management. Having been involved at Director/Board level, he offers a wealth of wisdom on both the people and business front.
Clive is the CEO of THE GREEN MIND CAPITAL GROUP. The company focuses on assisting executives, especially emerging young CA’s, in maximizing their potential and fast-tracking their careers.
Clive has been involved with coaching and self-development since 1994. His mix of years of practical executive experience coupled with his own personal self-development journey brings together a unique method of Transformation Coaching. He has hundreds of hours of one-on-one coaching to his credit.
Clive is also a prolific writer on LinkedIn PULSE. He has written over 80 articles on various topics from financial management and operations to job search and confidence building. He is also the author of the winQs series (pronounced ‘winks’) which appears regularly on the LinkedIn network.
Clive is also a mentor for ORT Jet and The Hope Factory, (a SAICA initiative). He also works closely with the More To Life Program, all on a voluntary basis.
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